Group Coaching
Resilient
From helpless bystander to a hope-filled woman with a plan.
Twelve weeks. A group of women who truly get it. A coach who has lived it. And a God who has been working the whole time.
Next cohort begins January 2027 · Enrollment opens December 1
Sound familiar?
Somewhere Between Giving Up and Holding On
You’ve read the books. You’ve watched the videos. You’ve asked your pastor, your best friend, and Google more times than you’d admit.
And you still end up in the same place.
Saying the thing you swore you wouldn’t say.
Smoothing things over so the house stays quiet.
Smiling at church and telling no one.
Starting the same cycle over. Again.
That isn’t because you’re weak. It’s because no one was meant to learn this alone, from a book or video, in the middle of the storm.
I tried pleading, silent treatments, bribing, ultimatums, and even drinking to numb the pain myself. None of it worked, and I walked most of that road alone. You don’t have to.
Little by little
Change Takes Practice. And People.
But here’s what I’ve seen: God rarely changes us all at once. He grows us, week by week, and He almost always does it in community.
Resilient gives you twelve weeks to grow on purpose. Not more information. A guided path, a group of women walking it with you, and room to practice until the new way becomes your way. Same women, same circle, all twelve weeks. Not a drop-in group.
It’s built on Invitation to Change, a science-based approach for families, and every session is anchored in prayer and God’s Word.
“And I am certain that God, who began a good work within you, will continue his work until it is finally finished.”
PHILIPPIANS 1:6 (NLT)What you’ll walk away with
By Week Twelve, You’ll Know How To…
See the need underneath their choices
and respond to the person instead of the problem.
Catch a reaction before it takes over
and pause long enough to remember your values and who God is.
Treat yourself with kindness
the kind you would give a friend in your shoes.
Start conversations that don’t end in a fight
using two simple tools: L.O.V.E. and S.U.R.F.
Invite your loved one toward help
without threats and ultimatums.
Set a limit, and hold it
and know when stepping away is the loving thing to do.
Hear God’s voice for yourself
so you’re not waiting on someone else to tell you what He’s saying.
The journey
Three Phases, Twelve Weeks
WEEKS 1-4Foundation
Seeing clearly. What their use is doing for them, why recovery looks different for every person, and why a setback isn’t the end of the story.
WEEKS 5-7Inner Work
Tending your own heart. Noticing what’s happening inside you, holding your pain in a new way, and learning to be gentle with yourself.
WEEKS 8-12Strategy & Action
Love with a plan. How to talk, how to invite them toward help, and how your everyday choices can shape theirs.
What We’ll Walk Through
Week by week
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Meet your guide and the women who will walk beside you for the next twelve weeks. I’ll share my story, introduce you to Invitation to Change and the Faith Factor, and walk you through the rhythm we’ll keep each week. Then we’ll look ahead together at where these twelve weeks can take you, and I’ll pray over you as we begin. Come as you are. You won’t walk this alone.
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Why does someone keep choosing the very thing that’s hurting them? We’ll look underneath the behavior to what it may be giving them, and discover how seeing it can change the way you show up. You’ll also learn a simple way to hear from God for yourself, a practice we’ll return to all twelve weeks.
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If you’ve ever thought, “If they would just go to rehab,” this week is for you. We’ll explore the many kinds of help available and what makes someone more likely to say yes. And you’ll see how Jesus reached different people in very different ways.
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Why do they promise to stop, mean it, and start again? We’ll unpack the tug-of-war happening inside your loved one, and inside you, and practice a way of talking that opens conversations instead of shutting them down. You’ll find this same struggle in an unexpected place in Scripture.
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This is where the focus turns to you. You’ll learn what happens inside you in the moments that set you off, sort what’s yours to carry from what isn’t, and discover Selah, a biblical pause you can take anywhere.
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What if the pain you’re carrying means something different than what you’ve been told? We’ll name the stories we tell ourselves about our hurt, and discover a third way between controlling everything and shutting down. You’ll see how Jesus walked this road first.
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If you’re harder on yourself than on anyone else, this week is a gift. We’ll quiet the critical voice, learn the difference between guilt and shame, and build a simple plan for the days you’re running on empty. You’ll see how God responds when we fall short.
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Some conversations go sideways before the first sentence ends. You’ll learn to read the signals, avoid the traps that lead to a fight, and practice L.O.V.E., four simple tools for talking so your loved one is more likely to listen. And you’ll see how Jesus did it.
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How do you ask for what you need without starting a war? S.U.R.F. gives you four ingredients for a request that invites a real conversation. You’ll write one for your own situation and practice it with your group.
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This week we prepare for one of the most important conversations you’ll ever have: inviting your loved one toward help. You’ll learn how to get ready, how to choose the moment, and how to leave the door open, whatever their answer.
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Four strategies that turn love into a plan: encouraging what’s good, letting the world do the teaching, setting limits you can hold, and knowing when to step away. Safety always comes first.
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We’ll look at how far you’ve come. We’ll trace the journey you’ve walked, practice your new skills together one more time, and celebrate what God has done. Then I’ll pray over you and send you out, with your invitation to Hope Haven in hand.
Every Week Has the Same Rhythm
Opening prayer • Check-in • Teaching • Listening prayer • The Faith Factor • One small step
You’ll always know what to expect.
What’s included
Everything You Need to Grow on Purpose
24 hours of live coaching
Twelve 2-hour sessions on Zoom. Real time, real faces, real conversations.
A small, confidential circle
Limited to 12 women and never recorded, so you can say the real thing.
A workbook, mailed to your door
Yours to keep, and a reference you can return to long after week twelve.
A prayer and practice partner
Someone from your group praying for you, and practicing with you, between sessions.
Optional Saturday practice labs
In Weeks 8-11, role-play the hard conversations before you have them for real.
An invitation to Hope Haven
Our community for Resilient graduates, when you finish.
Before → After Stories
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“I was feeling very panicky, scared for the future, not sure what to do next, like it was all on me. Now I feel released of that need to ‘say the perfect thing,’ and I feel more at peace trusting that God is in control and working even when I can’t see it. This work showed me it’s not about the addiction but rather what’s underneath. Having this understanding is so freeing.”
R. in Missouri (Wife)
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"This course was an eye opener to everything I was doing wrong with my son’s addiction. Mel made the course easy to understand with her feedback and input in my personal struggles with my son."
H. in Colorado (Mother)
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"When I started this course, I was emotionally broken and overwhelmed with anxiety. I lacked the tools to navigate my emotions. Through this course, I gained those tools, grew in my faith, and found strength through God. Today, I am stronger, more confident, and better equipped to face life’s challenges with Him by my side."
D. in Hawaii (Wife)
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“My emotions were all over and that's what was getting in the way. I have learned so much from Mel and the workbook that I have peace in my heart.”
A. in Nevada (Mother)
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“When I started this course I was scared, worried, sad, angry and very stressed because the choices my loved one was making. I am now more at peace because I understand that this is not my problem to fix. It continually reminded me that I am in control of “planting” and God is in control of “fixing.””
S. in Nevada (Mother)
Meet your coach
I’m Melanie Ota.
Founder of Hope Releasers and a certified Invitation to Change coach.
For seventeen years, I loved my husband in active addiction. He went through five rehabs, and none of them lasted. I was losing myself trying to hold everything together. Then God met me in my exhaustion as I read Scripture, and my peace came back before anything in him changed. Two years later, by God’s grace, he got clean and sober. But the first miracle happened in me.
Years later, Invitation to Change gave me language and tools for what God had already taught me at home. Resilient is both: Scripture and skill, shaped into twelve weeks we walk together.
I can’t promise you your loved one’s recovery. I can promise you don’t have to lose yourself, your faith, or your peace while you wait for God to do only what God can do.
With hope,
Melanie
Is this you?
Is Resilient for You?
Resilient is for you if …
You love a husband, son, daughter, or someone close who is using alcohol or drugs.
Your loved one may or may not want help right now. You don’t need them to.
You want tools grounded in both Scripture and real research.
You’re ready to show up for twelve weeks, for you.
It isn’t the right next step if …
You or someone in your home is in danger right now. Please call 911 first.
For free, confidential support 24/7, call the SAMHSA National Helpline at 1-800-662-4357, or call or text 988.
If you’re unsafe at home, call the National Domestic Violence Hotline at 1-800-799-7233.
January 2027 cohort
Your Investment
“The Resilient course gave me hope for the future with my loved one.” S. in Nevada
That’s twelve weeks, 24 hours together, a mailed workbook, and a prayer and practice partner for
$379
paid in full, or 3 payments of $139
Each cohort is limited to 12 women, so everyone has room to share and be heard.
Enrollment opens December 1 and closes December 21, or when all 12 spots are filled.
REFUND POLICY
Before December 29, 2026: cancel for a full refund. That’s the day I mail your welcome package, so it reaches you the first week of January.
After that: refunds aren’t available. But life happens. If you need to reschedule, you may transfer one time, at no extra cost, to one of the next two cohorts. Transfer requests must be made before Week 4.
On the payment plan? If you transfer or stop attending, your remaining payments still go through as scheduled. A transfer moves your seat, not your payments.
In case you’re wondering
Questions You Might Have
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No. Resilient is rooted in faith in Jesus, and we pray and open Scripture together every week. But you’re welcome wherever you are in your faith. You’ll never be pressured.
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No. Resilient is for you. Many women join while their loved one is still using and not interested in help.
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Once a week for two hours, live on Zoom.
I’m opening two groups: Tuesday evenings (4–6 PM Pacific / 7–9 PM Eastern) and Wednesday mornings (10 AM–12 PM Pacific / 1–3 PM Eastern).
Join the waitlist to tell me which time works for you, or suggest another. If both groups fill, or enough women ask for a different time, I’ll open a third. The final schedule will be announced December 1, when enrollment opens.
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No. Women share deeply personal things in this group, and that kind of honesty needs a safe room. What’s said in the circle stays in the circle. If you miss a week, you’ll receive that session’s takeaways and next step by email, so you can keep up.
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They’re optional Saturday sessions during Weeks 8–11, when we learn how to talk with your loved one. You’ll role-play real conversations in a safe space, so the first time you try it isn’t the moment it matters most.
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No. Resilient is faith-based group coaching. It isn’t a substitute for professional counseling, medical care, or crisis intervention, but it works well alongside them.
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The toolkit is something you use on your own, whenever you need it. Resilient is something we do together: twelve weeks of deeper teaching, practice, and prayer with a coach and a group, so the change has time to take hold.
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You’ll be invited into Hope Haven, our community for Resilient graduates, to keep growing with women who speak the same language of hope and resilience.
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Free groups are a gift, and I’m grateful for every one of them. Resilient is something different: the same circle of women for all twelve weeks, a guided path from the first session to the last, prayer and Scripture woven through every session, and a coach who has walked this road herself. You don’t just drop in. You grow together, on purpose.
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Yes. You can pay $379 in full, or make 3 payments of $139: the first when you enroll, then 30 and 60 days later, charged automatically.
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Before December 29, 2026: cancel for a full refund. That’s the day I mail your welcome package.
After that: refunds aren’t available. But life happens. If you need to reschedule, you may transfer one time, at no extra cost, to one of the next two cohorts. Transfer requests must be made before Week 4.
On the payment plan? If you transfer or stop attending, your remaining payments still go through as scheduled. A transfer moves your seat, not your payments.
Whenever you’re ready
Twelve Weeks From Now
Your loved one may or may not be in a different place. But you can be.
Join the waitlist, and I’ll email you the day doors open on December 1.
No payment, no pressure. Just a seat saved for you.